Divorce Coaching fills a missing role

From my own personal experience of divorce, the overwhelming nature of divorce leads to many common, yet entirely avoidable, mistakes. These mistakes can lead to major legal, financial and emotional mishaps with long-term effects. Working with a good divorce coach will give you a much better chance of empowering yourself to take the high road and change your experience of divorce – for the sake of yourself and your family!

How?

Divorce Coaching will help you change how you experience separation and divorce and support you to move forward one step at a time. Divorce Coaching helps the individual caught in the overwhelm of divorce to make the best decisions possible for their future based on their particular wants, needs and concerns. The kind of work that a divorce coach does helps the client in ways that are different from a therapist, a mediator, and a lawyer. Divorce Coaching instead complements the divorce settlement process in helping the client to make the best decisions for their future based on their wants, don’t wants, and their needs.

Here are seven ways a Divorce Coach can support you to have a healthier divorce.

1. Reduces stress

   Divorce Coaching offers non-judgmental and impartial support and guidance to help reduce stress and overwhelm. A Divorce Coach is a sounding board and a thinking partner, helping you prepare for what’s ahead and developing a plan of action.

2. Make Informed decisions

   Avoid being bullied or taken advantage of - A Divorce Coach will help you communicate effectively and make informed decisions throughout your divorce, avoiding the risk of making overly emotional decisions. You will find your voice and be more confident in your skills to take a proactive role in your divorce and less confused with sometimes conflicting but well meaning advice from friends and family.

3. Save money

   When emotions are high, conflict can escalate and so too, the legal fees. Divorce coaching will help you get clearer on what you want to achieve, helping you make clearer decisions and avoid costly mistakes. So many families make the mistake of ending up in court due to emotion and resentment. Don’t let it be you, as there will me detrimental consequences to you and your family, taking years of recovery.

4. Save time

   Divorce coaching will help you ‘pick your battles’ and move on quickly. Divorce Coaching encourages you to look at the big picture and focus on the future, rather than get bogged down in the process. When emotions are high, little things can become big things in a separation - which can draw it out.

5. Communication

   If you desire to put the needs and emotional well-being of your children front and centre in your divorce, then Divorce Coaching can help you consider areas of possible conflict and explore techniques to reduce confrontation and improve co-parenting. Divorce coaches assist you with specific verbal and written communication skills important for more neutral emails and messages.

6. Minimise conflict

   A Divorce Coach will help you stay in control to avoid angry emotional hijacks, focusing on what’s really important to you and your family in the long term.  Even if your former partner is the most difficult person in the world, coaching can help you with tools and strategies to communicate better with your ex and cope better with their behaviour. 

7. Constructive dispute resolution

   A Divorce coach prepares you for mediation and other forms of dispute resolution, attending with you if necessary. Divorce Coaching will help you clarify your thoughts and participate more constructively in negotiations.

   Christina Salvo, is the founder of Simple Separation, a child-centred and divorce settlement service, helping parties to separate amicably and legally.